Pennsylvania ban or gay marriage….

Philadelphia (AP)—Pennsylvania’s ban on gay marriage was overturned Tuesday by a federal judge in a decision that makes same-sex marriage legal throughout the Northeast.

Pennsylvania was the last remaining state to outlaw gay marriage in the Northeast, a region that tends to be socially liberal and Democratic. An appeal to the U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals is likely. If the decision stands, Pennsylvania would become the 19th state to legalize gay marriage.

State marriage bans have been falling around the U.S., including in several socially conservative states, since the Supreme Court last year struck down part of the federal Defense of Marriage Act in a landmark ruling. Oregon became the 18th state on Monday, when jubilant couples began applying for marriage licenses immediately after a federal judge issued a ruling that invalidated that state’s voter-approved same-sex marriage ban.

The issue of state marriage bans is ultimately expected to be decided by the Supreme Court.

In Pennsylvania, U.S. District Judge John Jones decision Tuesday was a victory for 11 couples, a widow and one of the couples’ two teenage daughters who filed the first challenge
to the law. Gov. Tom Corbett’s office had defended the law after the state’s attorney general called it unconstitutional and refused to defend it.

“We now join the 12 federal district courts across the country which, when confronted with these inequities in their own states, have concluded that all couples deserve equal dignity in the realm of civil,” Jones wrote.

The plaintiffs said the ban deprives them of the legal and tax benefits enjoyed by married couples.

One of the plaintiffs, Maureen Hennessey, married her longtime companion, Mary Beth McIntyre, out of state in 2011. McIntyre died in May after battling cancer.

The Pennsylvania lawsuit, filed July 9, was the first known challenge to the 1996 state law that effectively bans same-sex marriage and the recognition of gay marriages from other states.

At least five later challenges have surfaced in state and federal courts since the lawsuit was filed, including one in which a county official is defending his decision to issue 174 marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

Sam Bean, the other Queen

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My niece, My Bean
The one I adore,
A aunt with a watchful eye
I love her much more

She makes me happy
She makes me smile
She left me, but I still see her, my other child
I pray it will be, not for long, just for a little while

She eats frosted flakes and said to me, I wish
I wish, Aunt Leigh this was Tuna fish

My heart, it hurts, like I lost my best friend
And I say to myself
God, please just let this pain, just end

A Mother’s Prodigy

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My children, my prodigies 

A wondrous omen before their time

I knew them before I conceived 

I could feel them 

I longed for them 

I could see them

I prayed for them

I loved them

My prodigies 
Kristina and Robbie Harman

The Smallest Angel

The smallest Angel

She looked into my eyes
that very first day
a bond you can not take away

She smiled and grinned when I knocked on the door
A memory I will have forever more

She must of thought, I was lost
It hurts because I can not tell her it wasn’t her fault

She thinks I betrayed her a long time ago
Her pain is so great, and nobody knows

Her face so small and very round
I still remember that sweet little frown

Time flies by in a blink of a eye
They tell me heaven is even faster as angels fly

Be good, be kind my little child
I will see you soon in just a little while

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Frenemies-creatures of all evil.

False friends, sometimes also called frenemies, are people who pretend to be a friend and then turn out to be just the opposite. These are people who get close to you to make fun of you behind your back, delight in the misery you endure, use you for whatever you can give them, and find out about your life so they can gossip about it later.

However, when you discover a false friend in your life, you should distance yourself from them. Life is too short to be surrounded with people who don’t really care about you. To help you remember that sentiment, here are some quotes about false friends..

Christian Nestell Bovee

“False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instant we cross into the shade.”

Have you ever had friends who just couldn’t be there for you when things turned dark? They want to hang out with you during the good times, but the minute things get hard they leave you behind. Often these types of people will wait until they think you’re “over” your hardship, and then call you up wanting to be friends again as if nothing had happened.

By Ralph Emerson
“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

I like this quote because it helps put the “betrayal of false friends” in perspective when it comes to the whole of your life. When you recognize a false friend, you may feel a bevy of emotions ranging from hurt to shock. You might also wonder why you didn’t see the way they really were sooner.

But this quote reminds me that if you open yourself up to friends, occasionally you may be burned. It’s part of life, and if it happens to you, know that you aren’t alone. Emerson suggests here that dealing with a false friend is even part of being a “success” in life. In other words, put it in perspective and move on. There are too many good people in the world to waste spending energy on the ones who aren’t.